你有梦吗？让我换句话问，你有灵魂吗？

大部分人会直截了当高高兴兴告诉我 ，有！然后告诉我一个Scientific fact:苏联科学家把一个将死的人放到一个装有称重装置的床上，记录他死亡瞬间的重量变化，成年人灵魂的重量是21克。

你的梦重约21克。持续一辈子。在你离开这个世界的那一刹那，你的梦再也坐不住了，它最终都会离开你的身体，去追寻自己的梦。这就是21克差异的原因。

西方人讲Soulmate。我深信不疑，因为我曾经并且正在经历与我自己的Soulmate之间的故事，这些故事很凄美，我希望不管最终结果如何，我都会把它们变成一个传奇。Jesus Christ寻找自己Soulmate的故事变成了Holy Bible.那是一个传奇。

你后悔吗？后悔不是万能药，过去的事情就过去了，未来才是我能把握的。但是，忘记历史就是忘记灵魂，一个人最初的Mentor总是自己，却总以其他人的形式表现固化在我们的记忆中。当你发现你自己的脑子里充满的都是，我要为某某某如何如何，正是因为有了某某某，我才能如何如何的时候，你的思想才变得成熟，因为你自己变成了自己的精神导师，而你的思想也将因为有这种反思而变得更加精彩。很复杂吧，其实不然，某某某就是你的Soulmate。

外国人惊讶于中国人没有beliefs，其实不然。每每我见到她的时候，我就会相信上帝的存在。

Classic Meaning of Soulmates
The concepts of soulmates arose from Greek mythology. According to the story, our ancestors once had 2 heads, 4 arms. They did something to offend a god so that god punished them by splitting them down the middle, resulting in the creation of humans. As a punishment, we are condemned to spend our lives searching for the other half, our soulmates.
关于Soulmate的经典含义
Soulmate的含义最初起源于希腊神话。根据希腊神话故事的说法, 我们的祖先有两个脑袋4只手臂. 因为他们做了冒犯上帝的事情，所以上帝为了惩罚他们，把他们从中间一分为二。结果就是创造了人类。作为惩罚，我们人类必须花费我们的一生时间来寻找自己的另外一半，即我们的Soulmate。

Spiritual Soulmate Concepts
Many religions and spiritual paths believe in reincarnation and the concept of karma. Through reincarnation, soulmates may spend many lifetimes together in past lives. Other spiritual methods of searching for one’s soulmate are astrology, numerology, palm reading, personality types, and magic. Modern spritual paths often blend western and eastern philosophies.

Companion Soulmates
These are people that we encounter through their life. These are usually friends, teachers, mentors, or other people who have helped you achieving a life’s goal or helped you out of a crisis.

Twin Soulmates
These types of soulmate are your closest friends or a person whom you really click with. According to those who believe in reincarnation, you have already met them in a past life, and in this life you are continuing the relationship. There is an emotional bond between these soulmates and each is able to sense the feelings of each other..

Twin Flame Soulmates
This is the most popular type of soulmate. There is usually one twin flame soulmate for each of us. Twin flame soulmates have spent multiple lifetimes together in past lives. There is incredible chemistry and attraction towards each other. They “complete” each other and only few lucky people are able to find their twin flame soulmate. Twin flame soulmates, if separated, usually suffer enormous pain.

关于Soulmate精神层面的含义
很多宗教信仰讲究轮回和因果报应. 通过轮回, 很多对soulmate都在一起在前世经历过好几轮生命历程. 另外一个寻找自己的soulmate的精神方法是通过占星，测数字，看手相，性格分析和魔法。现代的精神层面的方法则是混合东西方哲学方法。

伙伴Soulmate
我们生活中总会遇到形形色色的人. 这些人经常以朋友，老师，导师或者那些帮助我们实现人生目标或者拯救我们与灾难之中的人出现。

孪生Soulmate
还有一种soulmate是那些你最紧密的朋友或者你最关心的某一个人。根据那些相信轮回的人的看法，你曾经在前世遇见过他们，然后在今生继续你们的姻缘。在这种soulmate之间被一种精神纽带所束缚在一起，一方总是能感到对方的感觉。

孪生恋人Soulmate
这是soulmate中最普遍的一种。我们每个人都有属于自己的孪生恋人soulmate。一对孪生恋人soulmate，一定是前生一起度过不止一次轮回。在它们之间存在着不可思议的感觉和吸引。他们互相使对方更加“完整”。只有极少的幸运儿才会找到自己的孪生恋人soulmate。一堆孪生恋人soulmate，一旦分开，必将承受巨大的痛苦。

Love Economics Definition of Soulmates
Love Economics is our theory of love and dating. It is based on probabilities calculations, population statistics, and empirical research findings from Psychology, Sociology, Anthropology, and Psychiatry. Love Economics explains social interactions in economic terms, benefits and costs. Based on this theory, the person who gives you the highest benefit per cost ratio on this Earth is your soulmate. The benefit to cost ratio is called your soulmate ratio. Mathematically, the ratio is written as:

Total Love Benefit / Total Love Cost
Your soulmate is the person who will maximize your soulmate ratio and vice versa. If another person exists that has the ability to give you a higher soulmate ratio than the person you are with, then the person you are with is not your soulmate. No one in this world, including being by yourself, could make you happier than being in love with your soulmate. True love is the love you share with your soulmate.

Some people believe that a potential soulmate may be living halfway around the world. Based on the Love Economic Theory, the odds are against this happening due to cultural differences unless you just moved from there. Also, geographical distance will increase search, research, and maintenance costs. Unless one of you decides to take the risk to move to the other person’s location, he/she is not your soulmate.

The longer you are in love with your soulmate, the higher the soulmate ratio becomes. Better communication skills will emerge and you both will share more experiences resulting in more similarities. It is only after you finished the research phase and had been in love for many years can you determine if the person you are with is indeed your soulmate.

爱情经济学关于Soulmate的定义
爱情经济学是我们关于爱情和交往的理论。它基于概率论计算，统计学规律和人们对于心理学，社会学以及精神学经验的研究成果而产生。爱情经济学以经济学角度解释了社会交往的规律。根据这个理论，地球上在单位代价给与你最大回报的人就是你的soulmate。这个回报与代价的比率称为你的soulmate比。形式化地可以这样定义：
Soulmate比=爱情总回报 /爱情总代价
你的soulmate是总能最大化你的soulmate比的人，反之亦然。如果存在另一个人能够给与你较之你现在在一起的人所给与更高的soulmate比，那么现在跟你在一起的这个人就不是你的soulmate。世界上没有任何人，包括你自己，能够比爱上自己的soulmate更能让你感到幸福。真爱是soulmate之间的爱。有些人相信潜在的soulmate会在天涯海角，根据爱情经济学的理论，文化的差异将会降低你找到soulmate的几率，除非你搬到那里去。并且，地理距离会增加寻找，研究和维持的代价。除非你们当中某一个愿意冒险搬到对方身边去，否则她/他就不是你的soulmate。跟你的soulmate在一起的时间越长，soulmate比也就越大。你们之间会发现你们具有更好的沟通技巧，并且能够发现和分享对于共同关心的事务的感受。只有当你们完成研究阶段，并且相爱很多很多年之后，你们才能确定对方到底是不是你的